Is this true? Really true?

Is it helping me?

Is it worthwhile?

Is it kind to me?

What’s the upside of thinking this?

Would I say this to a friend?

If I can’t talk myself out of it, I tell my husband who carefully and kindly points out the lies and tells me the truth of how awesome I am or about the situation.

Then I go do something I love doing and that I know I’m good at and tell myself I am good at it and I believe it.

Take a minute and write down all the thoughts currently in your mind.

Now really look at the thoughts and ask the questions above. Answer honestly.

Look at the negative, unhelpful thoughts. Can you come up with a more helpful or more true thought?

If you can’t do this on your own, ask someone for help. Or let me help you.

Find a new thought that you believe. It’s got to be believable – don’t just force yourself to think a positive thought. It might even just be a neutral thought.

Find the new thought and try it on and see how it feels. Just keep trying it on, like clothes in a dressing room. Don’t stop til you find one that its.

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